Dear Captain Awkward, I am a 34 year old straight woman in an open marriage with a 39 year straight man. I have taken far more advantage of the openness of our marriage than my husband, at least until recently. I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings. During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in. I am drawn to men who are starkly different than my husband, who is an intellectual, moderate in terms of his vices and has a disdain for the type of men who spend every evening in a pub. I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me. I can have a glass of wine in the morning and drink until I pass out in the afternoon and wake up when my lover comes home and go to the pub with him and start drinking again. This past Sunday my lover and I went to a country pub and I glanced in the dining room and saw my husband with a beautiful older woman, but not just any woman. It was my mother and, from the way they looked at each other and were touching, I could tell instantly that it was more than a friendly lunch; they were quite obviously in love with each other. My husband, who is also handsome and fit, looked like he was happier than I had ever seen him.
#992: “My husband is dating my mom.”
I found out that my husband had been cheating on me during our first year of marriage. I decided to stay with him and try to work things out. Shortly after I found out he had been cheating, my whole world fell apart when my sister-in-law suddenly died in a car accident. I was very broken up as she and I were the same age and very close.
I felt like my world had completely shattered and I had nothing left.
The only avenue I can think of at this point is therapy, which I have neither the time nor money for.
Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. My husband and I purchased a house a bit over a year ago. I have seen her drunk more often than I have seen her sober.
What does bother me is that Ramona is a very blatant flirt and is constantly hitting on my husband when she thinks that I am not around and most definitely when her husband is not around. Last night, our other neighbors were having a get-together and I went next door to see what all the noise was. While I was in the bridle trail behind my house, I could see my husband and Ramona standing next to each other. Ramona handed my husband a glass of wine and then proceeded to give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
I was caught off-guard and walked back to our yard and happened to glance over and I saw her kiss him again through the slats in the fence. I understand that people can become incredibly affectionate while intoxicated, but to a neighbor?
“Our Neighbor Hits on My Husband (And She Doesn’t Wear Pants)”
I feel that by keeping her in his life, he is being slightly disrespectful to me, as she clearly still has some kind of hold over him for him to put up with this. Please help before I drive myself mad!!!!! At the heart of the issue, this sort of thing stems from your own fears. Fear that she might do something to screw up your relationship with him.
Only now Jessica has announced she is pregnant and plans to be a stay-at-home mom—in our home, of course, since they were barely scraping by before.
Contact Author When I first wrote this article, I felt somewhat alone. The request asked that someone write an article about the ups and downs of remarriage, and I decided to share my personal experiences with being my husband’s second wife. It’s an isolated feeling, and for a long time I have thought that I was alone in my feelings of discouragement and resentment. But the article got page views and I noticed that it was showing up in Google searches. The truth is that I felt encouraged.
What follows is my personal experience and how I feel about being the second wife or in my case, the third. I know now that I am not alone in the way that I feel, and remarried men might want to consider my words in dealing with the ups and downs they face with their second wife. Leaving the Past in the Past Often, however much effort we might make towards the goal of leaving our past in our past, we are haunted by it. We are troubled by an affair our ex had with her boss, or we are fearful of the raised voice that accompanied a meltdown.
Being My Husband’s Second Wife
The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it. He told me he loves me, but felt like I was smothering him and he needed to find himself.
He made me lick that up too.
Her young sons Trin and Sam were healthy and happy, her marriage to her tall, handsome husband Fred, 44, was rock solid, and her life was idyllic. Her romance with Fred had been a whirlwind: They both began successful careers: Fred as a housing designer, and Kristin as a marketing director. A baby soon followed, and for a few years, life seemed perfect.
But everything changed in after the birth of their second son, Sam. Keen for Sam and two-year-old Trin to spend some time with their grandmother, Kristin took the boys for a visit, while Fred stayed home to work. The time Fred handed me my favourite red dress, inexplicably ripped. The time I noticed my negligee smelled of man sweat,” says Kristin. I wanted — I needed — Fred to be Fred.
Everything I had told myself about our happy little life was a lie. I tried imagining myself as someone who could support her husband wearing skirts and heels. But I shuddered at the thought of broad-chested and bearded Fred dressed as a woman. As it swished around his ankles he had an epiphany:
Walked in on my husband with my 13yo daughter!!
Then what follows is probably a combination of anger, grief, and panic at what might lay ahead. Not to mention, of course, the horror of wondering how this will affect your children. So if you do catch your husband cheating, what do you do?
That was Rod’s idea.
Six months since I left him for another man. Six months that I have been experiencing the utmost happiness, while also experiencing the most gut wrenching guilt. Six months that I have been paying for my choice through reduced access to my most amazing children ever. Six months where I have stayed silent on this topic because of the guilt and fear of being judged for what I did. I’m not staying silent anymore. When I married I meant what I said in my vows, and never intended for it to be my “starter marriage” like some do.
It was a forever thing. Or so I thought… Unfortunately, some small differences grew to be bigger ones over the years. And for a while I was sitting alone at night working out a budget for “if we did split.
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When I dressed he dropped the bomb on me.
He never takes me anywhere. All he does is work and sleep. I realized now that he does not make me happy; however, his twenty-two year old son my stepson does make me happy. In the past, my stepson has told me that he wants me. My husband thinks something is going on between my stepson and me. He told my stepson that if he finds out something is going on, my stepson will be out the door. I see my stepson more than I see my husband, and I think I am falling in love with my stepson.
What shall I do? But I have to be honest with you: The greatest anguish you have in your email is not about your loveless marriage, nor is it about the weirdness of copulating with your stepson.
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Do not date this man. A close friend is dating a total loser. Please give me the magic-spell-words to make him see this and dump him.
My niece got pregnant and dropped out of school, and my sister works full time and basically raises the kids.
Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. My husband and I have been together for seven years. We have two beautiful boys, a 4-year-old and a 2-month-old, and our relationship has always been a great one.
My mother has been living with us for the past year and a half.
Help! I’m Desperately in Love With My Twin Sister’s Girlfriend.
It was kind of rocky cause he was deployed overseas a lot. She met me when she was 21 and we had an affair that Victor wasn’t aware of for almost 2 years before she divorced him and married me. I’m also bi and I’ve had numerous casual encounters with men before and after we were married.
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Learn how to free yourself from a difficult ex. The next Intensive starts Dec. Click here to register! Read this article and the nearly comments it generated on Huffington Post! An irrational fear, as the chances of that happening are basically nil, but a common fear nonetheless. She perceives you as overstepping boundaries.